Dating is a risk, with a great reward, just remember you can keep going, or stop at any time, this is your life.” – Anon.
We all have different perspectives about dating. Some people see it as fun and full of possibilities; others downright hate it. For the latter group, their glum outlook on dating is understandable, as the path to finding a partner is often a difficult one. “How many more guys/girls can I deal with?” “What the hell is wrong with me?” “What the hell is wrong with them?”
For those in a relationship, odds are you didn’t find your partner right away. A few of us have even gone through hell and back before finding our love – a time of tremendous joy accompanied by a sense of relief.
The uncertainty of dating has made some people fearful – a natural response to vulnerability. Dating is a risk; plain and simple. For women afraid to date, it’s important that such feelings are okay. Be patient and wait for when you’re ready.
In fact, this article is for you. Here, we discuss four reasons why women are scared to date. For our male readers, you may find that some these words describe your thoughts and feelings on the subject of dating, as well.
HERE ARE FOUR REASONS WHY WOMEN ARE SCARED OF DATING:
1. SHE’S AFRAID OF REJECTION
In two words, rejection sucks. Unfortunately, dating often involves plenty of it – which quickly becomes disheartening. In essence, being rejected is similar to being told “You’re not good enough.”
In addition to influx of negative emotions, rejection inflicts damage to psychological well-being. Using Functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging (fMRI), scientists have found that rejection follows the same pathways of the brain that receives pain signals. Rejection literally hurts from a neurological perspective.
Considering the brain’s tendency to relive negative life events – and the manifestation of emotional and physical pain that rejection brings – it quickly becomes apparent why a woman who has been hurt would fear the notion of dating.
2. SHE’S DATED A PERSON WITH SERIOUS ISSUES
If you’ve ever been with a woman who you deeply cared for, only to have your chances squashed by some ex, then you understand the immense frustration and hurt that affects both people. (This writer has been in this situation, and it’s dreadful.)
Maybe her former was an alcoholic or drug addict, womanizer, manipulator, narcissist, control freak, or any other one of a thousand things. Unfortunately, she’s still wrestling with the abuse to which she was subjected.
Being the target of emotional, psychological or physical abuse is traumatizing. Sadly, it’s also far too common. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), 48 percent of women have experienced psychological abuse; 40 percent have experienced emotional manipulation and control, and 19 percent have been physically threatened or harmed.