3. SHE’S AFRAID OF NOT BEING SINGLE
There’s a minority out there that loves being single, and the reason is quite simple: they can do whatever, whenever. No partner = no problem. While these women may occasionally “hear it” from their family and friends, it isn’t enough to abdicate the awesomeness of “me.” While this perspective is more common in younger women, plenty of happy and successful people have the desire to “get out there.”
For most women who value their singlehood, a time comes when they long for a person to share their life with. This feeling is analogical to dipping your toe in cold water – jumping in may be refreshing, but first you’ve got to leap. Remind yourself that there’s no “time limit” to dating aside from those that are self-imposed. Take your time.
4. SHE IS AFRAID OF (A) COMMITMENT OR (B) LACK OF COMMITMENT
While men are usually painted as the more non-committed of the sexes, women can be just as commitment-phobic. Fear of dating, as a byproduct of commitment issues, usually results from one of two things: her fear of commitment, or a potential partner’s lack thereof.
There exists a multitude of reasons for being afraid of commitment: being attached to one person for life; fearing the hypothetical ‘end’ of a relationship; not being able to achieve life goals; need for personal space – and so on.
Of the two, fearing lack of commitment from a partner is by far the more ubiquitous. Of the two sexes, it is fair to say that women are considerably more sensitive. As such, women (usually) take breakups harder. Repeated exposure to someone else’s lack of commitment takes a considerable emotional toll; enough to refrain from dating for an indefinite amount of time.
“Dating is a risk, with a great reward, just remember you can keep going, or stop at any time, this is your life.”
There is no shame in admitting to yourself that you’re afraid to date – to be vulnerable. Doesn’t matter if you’ve been a victim, or if you’re afraid of giving up your own life.
Most important, don’t allow anyone else to define happiness for you. Don’t let anyone else tell you how your life “should be.”
It’s your life; pursue your own version of happiness.